Wondering what the ELR family members have as their 2017 resolutions/goals 
I have ābe more positive/positive thoughtsā & to make the time to read more books.
How about you guys?
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Lose 64 pounds
Exercise more
Reduce stress
Increase Xanax
And from my favorite bookā¦be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger.
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Sounds like an awesome plan brother 
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No offence to anyone, but IMO then most new years resolutions is for undetermined people, who needs a special occasion to make themselves a promise they most likely wont keep anyway. If people are determined to change something, such as stop smoking (which is probably one of the most common new year resolutions) they dont need an occasion to do so, if they need that they are not determined enough and will most likely fail.
Plans/goals on the other hand is another āconceptā which is good to make and have 
My plans/goals for 2017 is to move forward with personal business, visit family and friends back in Denmark, get married and finally make sure my daughter get her danish citizenship.
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Love this!!! I really needed to hear this quote and also try to heed it!! My resolutions sound a lot like yours! I need to reduce stress and find time to exercise more!!!
I can see how this could be for a lot of people, but there are also others who are just too busy to find the time to do things for themselves (like me) so they make New Yearās a time to sit down and put things in perspective for themselves and maybe make a promise of something they have been meaning to do but never find the time to actually do it because they are always so busy with everything elseā¦I, for one, always put my husband and children and their needs and wants above my own, except for my school work (I am a full time student in my 3rd year) and even that sometimesā¦I always find myself cramming to get something turned in on time because I didnāt take the time to complete my work so I wait until the last minute I have to get it doneā¦so I must disagree that New Yearās resolutions are for undetermined people, because I am a very determined person, I am just usually very busy and do not put myself before anyone else I care aboutā¦[quote=āIumentum, post:4, topic:101395ā]
My plans/goals for 2017 is to move forward with personal business, visit family and friends back in Denmark, get married and finally make sure my daughter get her danish citizenship.
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Sounds like you have some great plans for 2017 though!!!
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Lower my spendings on unnecessary bullshitā¦ lower stress and eat healthier.
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Iāll just carry on as usual
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Be more positive is a trap!! be more truthful. If something is terrible itās terrible and you canāt shine a shit sandwich. Iām not being personal but putting out there another way of looking at it. The positive psychology peoples have fooled us into thinking itās the way to contentment.
In studies itās shown that those that were more āpositiveā during a fight with cancer fared much worse psychologically then those that embraced the crapness of it. Just sayingā as an example. There are plenty of other examples where looking for the positive in bad situations can cause things to go worse. The GFC was caused by a positivity syndrome in a way. People couldnāt speak up about the bad trades going down at fear of being negative.
Vulnerable and hard emotions and thoughts have their value, I think the positive movement which has become the only thing in the last 10 years comes from the fact we tend to exaggerate and focus on scary things. Gosh we are protecting ourselve and media and news donāt help we feel like the world has never been scarier or not great. But the fact is that itās never been safer, never been better to be a human on earth. So just remind yourself to be truthful. Is that guy being a doochr or are you being too hard on him. Are you really fat or not at all but put on 1lb, whatās the worst thing that can happen if you ask that girl out. Truthfully nothing but itās scary.
Take it all as you wish, itās just a annoying thing I see that teaches us that certain things are bad when they are not. Crying, sadness, vulnerability all are very valuable. Weāve all met the complainer goes on and on and brings everyone down. They are not being truthful. Personally itās a better tool for me. Allows me to recognise when itās alright to be angry, sad, etc. Hope you don;t mind my rant too much. Can I recomend you ignore me if it doesnāt fit your tastes. Maybe just another way of looking at the same situation.
OK Resolutions. Itās good to think about it huh! what things would help make my life more gooderer.
Keep not smoking, donāt spend too much on vape gear(booooo), I think Iād like to do more strenuous exercise.(I don;t do any) , lets aim for 30mins minimum each and every week by the end of the year, Keep working hard!. I can only eat ice-cream If I make it. AHA thatās a good one.
Cool thatāll do. Happy new years everyone. I hope we all can get huge amounts of luck in the upcoming year. Huge, may all the cards be dealt your way, each of the good people. And may the rotten bastards get bad luck, lots. Hah!
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This is an excellent one!!! I eat way too much ice cream (my husband does too!), but I cannot make it soā¦
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The only New Yearās Resolution Iāve ever kept is about 20 years ago when I resolved not to make any New Yearās resolutions. Since Iāve succeeded I donāt need to make any new ones! 
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I donāt make resolutions, itās setting yourself up for failure. Get stressed about making those resolutions, which leads to depression and beating yourself up for things you couldnāt get doneā¦which then spirals into poor self esteem in reduces the desire to strive for what you want.
Naw, Iāll stick with a list of goals I would like to achieve and give my all to everything I try.
First Goal: Stop buying more flavors. Effective immediately
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My goal for 2017 is to try and save up enough money to buy a more reliable car. I would like to be able to visit my family without feeling guilty that someone has to come get me and be able to get back and forth to school without worrying if today will be the day it finally falls to pieces. LoL
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Give up red meat. More cardio to take advantage of not being an actual smoker.
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Okayā¦I am officially confusedā¦I thought that a resolution is a goal/plan for the futureā¦I thought they were one and the sameā¦
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In a sense yes. I just worded it that way since some people donāt agree with the word or idea of resolution lol
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I think a resolution is something youāre committed to doing and a goal is something that you may or may not get around to doing
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Resolution: A firm decision
Goal: Think of something you want to do, or work towards
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Ahā¦okayā¦thanks guys!!!
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I want to live even more healthy, do more yoga, see my family more - share more love
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To continue challenging negative thinking patterns and to step outside of my comfort/safety zones a little more. And to reduce caffeine intake
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